A Manchester woman has revealed how severe OCD fueled violent intrusive thoughts that made her believe she was a pedophile, symptoms of P-OCD that forced her to confront a terrifying question: “Am I a killer?”
As a teenager, Molly Lambert experienced unwanted sexual and violent thoughts, looping endlessly in her mind until it consumed her daily life.
“I genuinely thought I was a pedophile,” Lambert, 22, told the Express in a March 3 interview. “The shame was overwhelming. I felt like a monster. I couldn’t even tell anyone what I was going through.”
The intrusive thoughts disrupted her daily life and created fear around being alone, eating, and sleeping.
“It was fight or flight constantly. Every thought was dark, I wasn’t eating properly, I wasn’t sleeping, I was so scared of being alone and going to bed,” she said.
At the time, she didn’t recognize her obsessive thoughts as possible symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD).
What is OCD?
Obsessive-compulsive disorder, commonly called OCD, is a mental health condition involving recurring unwanted thoughts that the Mayo Clinic explains lead to repetitive behaviors, also called compulsions.
“These obsessions and compulsions get in the way of daily activities and cause a lot of distress, the clinic writes.
“I thought OCD was cleaning and tidying; that wasn’t me at all,” Lambert told the Express. “The more controlling forms of OCD like mine are the ones we don’t talk about.”
For Lambert, the obsessions came in the form of intrusive sexual and violent thoughts she neither wanted nor believed – yet couldn’t stop.
“No matter what you’re worrying about, it’s the same brain process each time, but when it’s that deep, and such a horrid thought, the shame is unbearable,” explained Lambert, a digital PR worker and mental health advocate.
Pedophile OCD
Lambert later discovered Pedophile OCD, also called P-OCD, a subtype of OCD involving intrusive fears about being sexually attracted to children.
According to the Anxiety & Depression Association of America (ADAA), the condition involves unwanted thoughts, images, or sensations that create intense anxiety.
VeryWell Mind emphasizes that P-OCD “is not the same thing as being a pedophile.”
“The OCD brain has difficulty connecting to logic. While the obsessions are unwanted and distressing, the person feels the urge to perform compulsions to seek absolute certainty that the obsessions are not true,” the wellness outlet explained. “A pedophile knows that they are attracted to children without a doubt.”
“The weight that lifted off my shoulders was crazy. I thought only freaks had this,” Lambert said after learning her diagnosis. “It felt like I was in a war with myself, but now I knew what I was fighting.”
‘Am I a killer?’
Today, Lambert is speaking openly about her experience in hopes of helping others who may be silently facing the same fears.
“I dread to think the amount of people that have had these thoughts and had thoughts of, ‘Am I pedophile? Am I a killer? Have I raped someone before? Would I want to rape someone?’” Lambert said on her a podcast Intrusive, where she discusses intrusive thoughts, anxiety and the reality of living with OCD.
“I honestly thought to myself that I would have to kill myself,” she shared, adding, “That’s how convinced I was that I was dangerous.”
‘Silently suffering’
After sharing her experience publicly, Lambert said she received messages from people who had struggled with intrusive thoughts for years.
“The response has been overwhelming. People say they’ve been crying, that they’ve felt like this for years and never told anyone,” she said.
“Parents have reached out saying they have obsessions about harming their children. Some people said they ended up in psychiatric wards or tried to take their own lives.
“People don’t talk about it, and that makes it worse. Some messages are from people in their 50s who have been silently suffering their whole lives,” she said, adding, “It shows how common and hidden it is.”
Common compulsions of P-OCD
According to mental health experts at Sheppard Pratt, common compulsions linked to P-OCD may include:
- Unwanted sexual thoughts or mental images involving children
- Fear that childhood experiences suggest hidden pedophilia
- Fear that normal childhood curiosity indicates harmful intent
- Fear that being abused as a child means becoming an abuser
- Fear that accidental contact with a child had sexual motivation
- Fear that positive emotions toward children are inappropriate
- Fear that noticing a child’s appearance suggests sexual intent
- Fear that noticing physical traits in adolescents indicates attraction
“It’s not being a pedophile – it’s that these thoughts exist and your brain latches onto them. OCD is all about uncertainty. It tells you ‘what if?’ and you can’t prove it wrong,” Lambert shared.
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